Mar 28, 2023·edited Mar 29, 2023Liked by Marc Scheff
Brilliant piece, Marc.
I’ve noticed this through what I’ve witnessed with clients’s children who have gone to therapeutic treatment programs. The most successful outcomes are the ones where the kid’s treatment program included the FAMILIES working with the staff while the kids are away.
I’ve used the gear metaphors. Through the program, the kid’s gear shape is changing. If nothing changes in the family system, when the kid returns to the home, they new gear shape is ground back into the shape the system remembers and expects to return. The system must change to mesh with, to receive the changed shape.
On a smaller scale, this is the same with company off-sites: the leadership team goes off for a 1-day, 2-day, or 3-day gathering to work on the team and amazing things surface, the team shifts, spirits are lifted, and everyone is changed.
When they return on Monday, the system they Lee turn to still has the same gearing it did when they left and immediately begins to grind them back to expected form.
Without shifts to the system, friction ensues, and the force of the past grinds down progress.
Brilliant piece, Marc.
I’ve noticed this through what I’ve witnessed with clients’s children who have gone to therapeutic treatment programs. The most successful outcomes are the ones where the kid’s treatment program included the FAMILIES working with the staff while the kids are away.
I’ve used the gear metaphors. Through the program, the kid’s gear shape is changing. If nothing changes in the family system, when the kid returns to the home, they new gear shape is ground back into the shape the system remembers and expects to return. The system must change to mesh with, to receive the changed shape.
On a smaller scale, this is the same with company off-sites: the leadership team goes off for a 1-day, 2-day, or 3-day gathering to work on the team and amazing things surface, the team shifts, spirits are lifted, and everyone is changed.
When they return on Monday, the system they Lee turn to still has the same gearing it did when they left and immediately begins to grind them back to expected form.
Without shifts to the system, friction ensues, and the force of the past grinds down progress.
The world is happening FOR us, not TO us.